Love - what is it ?- when such questions are posed to 'the guy I know' his already short collection of ideas and experiences of life, almost in a flash start appearing even shorter & hollower, and with such limitations he can't ignore the question, that's not the option for him! To accurately define his mental status on the question of love - 'the guy I know' says, it feels like searching 'love' in Google and it returns - "don't ask me things, I'm not sure about ?!?#?!*?....With little determination, a lot of fear & super anxiety - 'the guy I know' makes an attempt. He says, we have all have grown up hearing love stories - some of us have been part of some (some more actively than others ), we have read about it, heard stories of honour killing as a consequence of love, courtesy more sensations & less responsible media. No matter how socially uninformed or not so well read one may be- the idea of love would have certainly got transmitted through celluloid (the srk kinda flicks)
Love is perhaps, most 'talked, thought, read' but least known subject to generation that 'the guy I know' belongs to - to such well fed ambiguity & super charged curiosity, will 'the guy I know' be able to do any justice? Well let's find out. He says, to understand it, let's start from where does 'love' originate from? Is it initiated by attraction or the need to be in companionship or the eternal desire of humans to be loved or idealization? The real root cause is perhaps unknown but we can arrive at some conclusion (may not be concrete) when we associate it with age group - 'attraction' - might drive a teenager or a fist timer to it, while a lonely working fellow might see companionship as the primary reason, for someone who is level headed & generous, might find 'the desired to be loved' applicable to his case but the last one 'idealization' is present in all forms but in different shares.
'The guy I know' is a lover himself & that's the sole reason why I don't mind turning an ear to his response to the question - he says - love is sense of security & content - the person you love slowly replaces the idea of self security with well being of the person you love - love gives immense satisfaction when everything is in shape but when things don't follow desire/expectations the same very love can become even more suffocating than a gas chamber! Loves is essentially a statement of 'care, promise, commitment’ & above all acceptance of your partner in love, in his/her current state! The scope to change the person you love is bleak but love changing both the parties into 'desirable' if fortunate & completely out of gear, if unfortunate, is almost certain in all circumstances!
'The guy I know' is largely in agreement with the statement which says, love is madness, but differs with many on what he considers 'madness' in love - in most occasion, he thinks, when we love someone deeply, we tend to forget that the person we love is also an individual and therefore, the person would need personal space, will have opinions about things & matters, which may not match with your own world view, the person may have other valued relationships like friends, family, career which will still exist - if you are lucky these aspects would 'co- exist' with consent of your love and if unlucky & hence in the state of madness these truths (about your partner) )are likely to defied and rejected and then the madness will cost nothing less than your love- so make a choice, you want to be mad in love - lose your love for madness and then go mad on your loss or be mad enough to behave sensibly and thus remain sane and in relationship?
'The guy I know' is in complete sync with the expression - 'love is blind' - rather in his view, love should be blind to matters which don't reality matter in long run - like 'external appearance' & yes 'past' in fact one needs to turn blind to externals so that he/she gets enough time to see, feel & assess the internals (what's the person made up of - values, principal & views) and needs to turn not only blind but also deaf to the calling of past- after all we are all entitled to have a past and its private to us, you share whatever you share only from the moment your proposal of love is understood & accepted - so don't let 'past & externals' blind you of your love!
Love is most strongest of all human bonding & most important too, being an average middle class Indian, 'the guy I know' thinks every love (if it actually qualifies to be called love) should end in a the association of marriage and therefore he says, before you say 'yes' - know what are you getting into, coz when strong part of you (love) breaks, it leaves you weak (alone & sad)!
'the guy I know', concludes by saying - its lovely to be in love & for its lovely being in - we shld always be in love :)
